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A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Strip Club

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Sometimes, life happens to you when you least expect it. Eight months ago, I began a new and different adventure in my Second Life that would turn out to have completely unexpected results. I am moved to share a bit of that story with you now. Let me start with an excerpt from something that I wrote back then:

Sometimes, the smallest thing will get an idea rolling around in my head … and if it rolls around long enough and vigorously enough, it eventually finds its way out. That is exactly what happened to me when I read a recent blog post from Lizzie Lexington about her stint as an SL escort.

I’m intrigued by the economics of a career in one of the major industries in SL, and by the business and personal skills it takes to be successful in the sex trade. I have more than a passing interest in sex, and in how sexual interests are expressed and lived out in a virtual world. And, I wonder if I dare to explore something here that I would never explore in my first life … and upon exploring it, if I would encounter the same pitfalls and sad experiences that many do in the atomic world, or even in their virtual world. Or might I be able to experience a gratifying exploration of my own sexuality? Would it be inevitable that my experience would go the way of Lizzie’s and some of her commenters? Or would my combination of traits, personality, and philosophies take me in a different direction?

I’m an active learner, and soon found that I couldn’t just keep these questions in my head … So I set out to become a SL Escort myself.

This post isn’t about the sex trade in SL, although that is an interesting enough topic, and perhaps the subject of future musings. But today’s post is about what can happen when you least expect it. Only two weeks into my illustrious career, on Christmas evening, the man of my dreams walked into my club, sat down at my dance pole, and never left. His name is Patch, and since the moment we met he has fulfilled some my deepest fantasies, allowed me to fulfill some of his; he has understood me, supported me, and comforted me; and most importantly of all, he has loved me better, deeper, and with more commitment than I’ve ever known.

As you might be guessing by now, when I began to explore a different SL experience, I did it with an alt – Kieve Jakob. I didn’t over-think it at the time – it was convenient to keep the two lives, and their inventories, separate. And, I expected a relatively short-lived experiment that I could drop when I was finished. However, somewhere along the line, Kieve was loved, extravagantly, and became a real girl. Sometimes I think that if I had known this would happen, I would have only ventured forth as Nissa Nightfire, and kept my virtual life solidly in one pixel body, with one name. However, I suspect that things wouldn’t have unfolded in quite the same way – and I wouldn’t trade what I have with Patch for anything. So, I’m willing to work with what I’ve created.

It has become important to me to re-integrate the distinct lives I’ve been experiencing. I want my voice on this blog to reflect the experiences and thoughts and musings that are now part of my daily life. I love the fashion industry in SL, and have no plans to stop blogging about that. (Would it surprise you to know that Kieve is a bit of a fashionista herself??) But I want to expand the breadth and depth of my blogging, in the same way that my Second Life has expanded. I hope you’ll stick with me… I have a lot of places I want to go~

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August 31, 2010 - Posted by | fashion, MV-SL-Fashion

7 Comments »

  1. What a wonderful post! Sometimes we just need different avatars to explore different aspects of our psyche or our personality. And I am so glad you found Patch!

    Comment by Elle Couerblanc | August 31, 2010 | Reply

  2. thank you, Elle … i thought you might understand 🙂 I really appreciate your kind words~

    Comment by Nissa Nightfire | August 31, 2010 | Reply

  3. This is a very enjoyable read, Nissa, and I’m looking forward to more installments!

    Comment by SweetDeb Kips | August 31, 2010 | Reply

  4. aww… thank you, SweetDeb — that’s a lovely thing to say … and you’re only encouraging me 🙂

    Comment by Nissa Nightfire | August 31, 2010 | Reply

  5. Congratulations on your “coming out”.

    Comment by Peter Stindberg | August 31, 2010 | Reply

  6. SL is one of the best environments for self exploration and self discovery. Enjoy it.

    Comment by Ivanova Shostakovich | September 1, 2010 | Reply

  7. Thanks, Peter and Iva 🙂 I definitely would agree that SL is an amazing opportunity to explore yourself~ Thanks for all your support

    Comment by Nissa Nightfire | September 4, 2010 | Reply


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